You love your partner, but most days you feel more like co-managers of a household than two people in a relationship.
Something big has happened (like a new baby, a new job, a big move) and it's changed things between you.
You're committed to each other, but you're starting to notice the real differences between you.
Sharing how you feel keeps turning into a fight, so more often than not, you just don't say anything anymore.
You've been keeping the peace, but you're not actually feeling at peace.
You wonder, sometimes, if you're even with the right person anymore, even though deep down you know you love them.
You/your partner isn't ready for counselling, but you don't want to just sit and do nothing.
You’re not ready for counselling, but you know something needs to change.
The In-Between service is a four-week email check-in that helps you make sense of what's happening in your relationship, so you feel clearer, less alone and see a way forward.
SERVICES
THE IN-BETWEEN SERVICE
DOES THIS SOUND LIKE YOU?
You're in the thick of it. Work, friends, parents, the house, the kids, the logistics of life.
By the time you sit down at night, it feels like there's almost nothing left to give each other.
You love your partner, but most days you feel more like co-managers of a household than two people in a relationship.
Something big has happened (like a new baby, a new job, a big move) and it's changed things between you.
You're committed to each other, but you're starting to notice the real differences between you.
Sharing how you feel keeps turning into a fight, so more often than not, you just don't say anything anymore.
You've been keeping the peace, but you're not actually feeling at peace.
You wonder, sometimes, if you're even with the right person anymore, even though deep down you know you love them.
You/your partner isn't ready for counselling, but you don't want to just sit and do nothing.
If this is sounding familiar, this service is probably for you
INTRODUCING THE IN-BETWEEN
You've probably already tried Googling the reasons for why your relationship is the way it is…
…Read articles. Talked to your friends. Tried a date night, a weekend away, a different way of bringing things up. Maybe you've even asked ChatGPT or Claude or some other AI. And yet, none of it has quite worked.
Maybe it’s time to try something different.
The In-Between service is a four-week written check-in. It’s somewhere between doing nothing and counselling... somewhere to talk about what's going on for you, be heard, and find a way forward.
…Read articles. Talked to your friends. Tried a date night, a weekend away, a different way of bringing things up. Maybe you've even asked ChatGPT or Claude or some other AI. And yet, none of it has quite worked.
Maybe it’s time to try something different.
The In-Between service is a four-week written check-in. It’s somewhere between doing nothing and counselling... somewhere to talk about what's going on for you, be heard, and find a way forward.
What you’ll get
Depending on what’s most useful for you and your situation, this might look like:
Replies that are specific to your relationship (not generic advice)
Reflective questions that help you get clearer on what's actually happening between you instead of going around in circles.
An explanation of the pattern you're in - why it happens, what keeps it going, and what can help change things.
A different way of looking at what's going on, so it feels less impossible and less personal.
Small things to try. Not a five-step plan, just something manageable to bring into your week.
An important thing to note is that this isn't a counselling service so I won't be doing clinical assessment or unpacking deep history.
What I will do is help you feel a little less alone in this, a little clearer and a little more hopeful that things can change.
What you’ll get
Depending on what’s most useful for you and your situation, this might look like:
Replies that are specific to your relationship (not generic advice)
Reflective questions that help you get clearer on what's actually happening between you instead of going around in circles.
An explanation of the pattern you're in - why it happens, what keeps it going, and what can help change things.
A different way of looking at what's going on, so it feels less impossible and less personal.
Small things to try. Not a five-step plan, just something manageable to bring into your week.
An important thing to note is that this isn't a counselling service so I won't be doing clinical assessment or unpacking deep history.
What I will do is help you feel a little less alone in this, a little clearer and a little more hopeful that things can change.
WHAT CAN YOU ASK?
Pretty much anything that's happening in your relationship.
A few examples:
Is what we're going through normal? Do other couples feel like this?
Something has changed for us since (a new baby / new job / a big life change) and our relationship feels different. How can we get through this?
We keep fighting and our fights keep going in circles. Is there a way out of it?
I feel like we don’t know each other anymore. How can we close that distance?
A few examples:
Is what we're going through normal? Do other couples feel like this?
Something has changed for us since (a new baby / new job / a big life change) and our relationship feels different. How can we get through this?
We keep fighting and our fights keep going in circles. Is there a way out of it?
I feel like we don’t know each other anymore. How can we close that distance?
I feel resentful and I hate that I do. Is this normal?
We used to be close but the intimacy has gone. How do we get it back?
How do I bring something up without it turning into an argument?
I've been biting my tongue lately just to keep the peace but I'm not okay. What can I do?
I feel resentful and I hate that I do. Is this normal?
We used to be close but the intimacy has gone. How do we get it back?
How do I bring something up without it turning into an argument?
I've been biting my tongue lately just to keep the peace but I'm not okay. What can I do?
TWO WAYS TO DO THIS
WEEKLY
SUPPORT
$49
(Introductory Price)
One email reply per week for four weeks.
A good fit if things feel manageable and you mostly need some guidance, reassurance and a bit of support.
A LITTLE MORE SUPPORT
$79
(Introductory Price)
Two email replies per week for four weeks.
A good fit if things feel more overwhelming and you’d like a little more support along the way.
Things you need to know
This is a one-on-one service, for your own reflections, not a joint or mediated service between you and your partner.
Payment is required upfront before the service begins. If you change your mind, let me know within 24 hours of purchase and I'll issue a full refund.
You can read the full terms and conditions [here].
Because the In-Between service is a reflective written check-in, it isn't designed for crisis or clinical complexity.
If any of this is true for you, please reach out to a mental health professional or crisis service. I'm happy to help point you in the right direction if you're not sure where to start.
Lifeline — lifeline.org.au
Suicideline — suicideline.org.au
1800RESPECT — 1800respect.org.au
Safe Steps — safesteps.org.au
You don't have to keep figuring this out on your own.
Take a small step towards understanding what's happening in your relationship.
THIS SERVICE ISN’T RIGHT FOR YOU IF…
You're currently experiencing:
Thoughts of suicide or self-harm
Domestic violence or coercive control
Sexual or child abuse
A mental health crisis that needs clinical support
Because the In-Between service is a reflective written check-in, it isn't designed for crisis or clinical complexity.
If any of this is true for you, please reach out to a mental health professional or crisis service. I'm happy to help point you in the right direction if you're not sure where to start.
Lifeline — lifeline.org.au
Suicideline — suicideline.org.au
1800RESPECT — 1800respect.org.au
Safe Steps — safesteps.org.au
You don't have to keep figuring this out on your own.
Take a small step towards understanding what's happening in your relationship.
You're currently experiencing:
Thoughts of suicide or self-harm
Domestic violence or coercive control
Sexual or child abuse
A mental health crisis that needs clinical support
Because the In-Between service is a reflective written check-in, it isn't designed for crisis or clinical complexity.
FAQs
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Once you've signed up, you'll receive a welcome email with everything you need to get started.
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That's okay, you don't need to have the right words or a perfect question ready. After you sign up, I'll send you a short questionnaire to help you reflect on what's been going on and what's brought you here. There's no right or wrong answer, it's just there to give you a starting point, so you're not stuck staring at a blank page wondering what to say.
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That's up to you. Some people decide it's helped enough to keep going on their own. Others use it as a stepping stone and book in for counselling with me. Either way, you'll walk away with more clarity and a few tools to bring into your relationship.
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Yes, within the same limits as any counselling service, for example if there's a risk of harm to you or someone else. This is covered in more detail in the full terms and conditions.